Twue Wuv

Even though I've been married for almost 32 years, I am not sure I could give a good definition of what "true love" is. But after spending a very nice weekend with my husband, I'd like to give it a shot, for those of you who would consider my opinion on the subject worth a read.

Twue Wuv, ahhemmmm, True Love is trusting in a person you hardly know, but think you know everything about them, and marrying them. It is looking at them, and wondering what in the world they see in you, and thanking God that they don't see everything you know about yourself that they would surely turn away from. It is forgiving them when they do stupid things, for surely they don't do those things to intentionally hurt you, because you know in your heart that they would never hurt you. It is doing things for them that they will take for granted, but you don't care, and you do them anyway because you love them and want to make them happy and comfortable. It is noticing when they are tired or sad or frustrated and praying you can say the very thing they need to hear at the very moment. It is changing your plans to accomodate what they need or want at the most inconvenient times and not regretting it for a single second. It is loving the way they drive, even though they can't, their off-key singing, and the funny shoes they wear, because you adore the whole of who they are, including the little things that bug you. It is trusting them with the money you have, your children, your posessions, your feelings and your secrets, knowing that they would never squander, hurt or sell anything that is important to you both. It is never having one thought that they could be unfaithful because they never would be. It is feeling safe and secure, and knowing they would always stick up for you even if you're wrong. It is allowing them to do things they enjoy, that you don't, and not feeling jealous or threatened by those things. It is listening when you don't want to, and hearing what you don't want to hear and being grateful that someone cares enough to try to help you truly see. It is wanting to be the best person you can be because you would never want to let them down, even though you do sometimes. It is forgiveness, unselfishness, compromise, work and joy. And it's worth it.