Showing posts with label Mom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mom. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

An Emotional Surprise

 
Mom with LeGrand and Marie Fletcher


Sunday, June 19, 2011,  was Father's Day.  After attending church and preparing a dinner for my husband and family, my Mom's husband, Harold,  came to eat and visit with us.  In hand, he brought two file folders of my mothers that contained things she had written that he "thought I might want to have."  They were individually and  simply titled:  "  LeGrand Fletcher" and "choices".

As I read them, I felt like my Mom had reached out of heaven and given me a gift!   I don't believe that Harold bringing them to me that day and at this time in my life is a coincidence.  It was a definite message from her to me.  And I know that my Heavenly Father is watching out for me and trying to help me through a most difficult time.  Thanks Mom!  Thanks Heavenly Father!   It was "an Emotional surprise! "

The fun thing about it, is that is what Mom titled her story about Elder Fletcher and I'd like to share her story with you all.

"An Emotional Surprise"  by Eleanor Harnish Falzone

"It has been a really emotional week for me.  Harold and I have been trying for about 6 months to find the missionary who baptized me.  We went on the internet and tried several options....we had no luck.  His name was LeGrand Fletcher and I could only remember that he had lived in Ogden before his mission.  Anyway, I was about to check with the church to see if they had any records of a missionary in the Cheyenne area mission in 1955 and 1956.  On Wednesday (May of 2003)  last week I received a telephone call from LeGrand!!!   I was speechless!  He and his wife were at the MTC in Provo, about to head out to Nauvoo for the 6th mission.  He said that in all the years he just had never had the opportunity to get back to Cheyenne and they were going to be coming thru on their way to Nauvoo.  We invited them to stay here with us, and they accepted.

He called several times before they arrived early Friday morning, so we had a chance to get a little bit re-acquainted before they came.  I set up Friday evening with my kids and those grandkids who could come, to meet with LeGrand and his wife Marie. Believe me, this was one of the most wonderful times I've had in my life!  We talked for hours on end and my kids were just amazed at him and his wonderful wife.

LeGrand just cried and cried over the fact that I had stayed in the church even though Bud had given the missionaries a pretty bad time...Anyway, when LeGrand found that I had remained active for 47 years, all my kids had married in the Temple, we had two  Bishops in the family- right here in Cheyenne - 4 grandsons on missions...he was so emotional.  [For those of us who were there, you'll remember that the tears just streamed down LeGrand's face.]   ...He says that when you are a 'young whippersnapper' of a missionary, you just always wonder if you made any difference in the lives of those you were involved with.

We had stayed in touch for about 5 or 6 years after he'd left here, but as often happens when our lives get busy with kids and life, and in our case - 17 moves in 15 years - we lost touch...

He had kept a truly marvelous Missionary journal and so was able to read to my children many of the entries on his visits with us in our home and the full detail of my baptism.

Yesterday, Mothers Day, during my Bishop son-in-laws talk, he surprised me by asking me to come up and repeat the story of my conversion and why, as a mother, I had needed and accepted the gospel.  I was truly scared to death and hope that I was able to convey to the members of our Ward, the reason for my conversion.  You see, when I became pregnant with Kathi, I began to panic.  I prayed and prayed for the help to take on the life of a child, and to be able to raise it in the way in which He would approve.  I really did need all the help I could get at that time.  Kathi was just 2 weeks old when the Elders knocked on my door.

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His journal says I came to the door with this tiny, new infant and just opened it wide and asked them in.  I was converted from the first discussion.  I just KNEW that this was the answer to my prayers."

So, Thank you Mom for your steadfastness in living the gospel of Jesus Christ and to His church on this earth all the years of my life and your life....especially when it was not easy for you to do so.  I'm sorry I didn't always appreciate or understand how difficult it was for you....but, I will continue to try and live as you would like me to, and to keep the faith. I sure want to be with you forever!   Thank you for this little message from you, right in black and white, right at the time I needed it. 

Friday, May 8, 2009

A wedding!

Well, it's not what you think! Nope, it's not one of the boys!



It was grandpa!


Harold and Marlene were married on Saturday May 2, 2009 in Boulder Colorado.

I have to be very honest and say that the idea of Harold getting married again was very tough for me. But seeing them together calmed me and I realized that Harold and Marlene are well-suited, and that they will be able to take care of one another in their golden years. Being alone is something neither of them wanted for themselves.

There were moments of sadness as I realized that he was moving on with his life... And, There were moments of understanding... It seemed that Harold was letting go of my Mom, but I now understand that the love they shared will always be there, just as the love he has for Margaret, his first wife will always be there.

Harold was very good to my Mom. He took good care of her, and protected her, and loved her. He took on her whole family, and became a grandpa to her grandchildren. He will always be the only grandpa our kids will ever remember.

I know he will always love my Mom, and us kids, and our children. How fortunate is the man who can be married 3 times in a lifetime to 3 VERY magnificent women. Most of us are lucky to have that happen once in a lifetime!

The music during the ceremony was especially sweet. Dave and Lyle did a fabulous job. How they remained calm I do not know!





As they sang, "A lady like you." (sung by Glen Campbell) I could not help but think of my dear mother and the Lady she was and will always be. (Happy Mother's Day Mom!)


"Here I am....just an ordinary man, my virtues are few.

And I'm amazed....every morning when I wake...with a lady like you.

You're all the good things God put on this earth...

And you're so much more than I deserve.

What did I ever do, to win a lady like you?


Look at me, I'm as common as can be...but you make me shine.

and look at you...you're a lady through and through, so gracious and kind.

And when you're sleeping softly by my side

I look at you and I'm mystified...

What did I ever do, to win a lady like you?


Heaven knows I'm less than perfect, yet I have found the very best.

But it's a mystery, how someone like me, was chosen to be blest With a Lady like you.


You're all the good things God put on this earth...and you're so much more than I deserve, and what did I ever do, to win a Lady like you?"


(See what I mean.....!)


Then...


Dave had a surprise up his sleeve when he sang during lunch, acapella, "They think we're too young." (sung by Nat King Cole) Tender and sweet for sure.






You know, when Mom married Harold all those years ago, it was hard. But my love for her, and not wanting her to be alone for the rest of her life, over-rode all my emotions. It wasn't always easy...but, most importantly, I will always be grateful for the kindess and love Harold showed to my Mother and that she was not alone. And for the very same reasons, I am sure Marlene's children are accepting this marriage for the same reasons, as are ALL of us in Harold's family trying to do the same. 2 people are not alone any more.


Maybe this post seems odd to you, and I suppose it IS pretty odd. But I sure have learned that life doesn't turn out much like we planned it.
















Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Motherhood



Since everyone is posting pics of their kids, I thought I'd follow suit. Yeah, I'm not a 'new' Mom, but I'm a well seasoned Mom....well maybe just seasoned. But these are some cute, handsome, talented, make-a-mom proud sons!